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Why do grudges feel so good to hold onto? I mean, what kind of empowerment do we get from holding onto hurts, or perceived slights, from others? Do we not see we allow our minds to be controlled by things which people have said or done to us? When we finally confront them about these things (if ever), we find they have forgotten them, or were unaware of the effect they had on us. So, we've walked around, for years sometimes, hanging onto these, playing them over and over again in our minds, plotting the witticism we'll dish out when we do confront the person, or even considering the revenge that will be meted out. It can even reach the point of obsession, where our grudges color everything in our lives, and may even cause physical problems. So, what is the solution? If you have any doubts or concerns about your interactions with, or the actions towards you by others, then the time to clear the air is at that moment, or fairly shortly after. The saying goes that anger allow the person you're upset with to live in your head rent free. Best to enter into a conversation with them, express your feelings and views, and then walk away with the knowledge you've laid the thing to rest. Grudges are unhealthy, and can only lead you down a dark path it's better not to travel.